Crossing Cultures 

Dating and sex

It is important to note that different cultures have different norms in regard to gender.  Women and men should both be aware that the ways people interact vary widely by region and country, and issues around dating and sexuality can be particularly difficult in a cross-cultural setting.  Such things as eye contact, the way one dresses, and body language can send very different messages by region and culture.  Observing interpersonal interactions within a culture can be useful in helping you choose the way you communicate verbally and non-verbally with others in that country.

Some people consider traveling an aphrodisiac.  Meeting new, exciting, and different people may stimulate action that you would not have taken under similar circumstances in the United States.  Don’t be foolish in assuming that you are invulnerable because you are a visitor in the country and no one is judging your behavior.  Ask yourself why you are choosing to be sexually active and be aware of and set your boundaries and partner expectations. 

If you choose to be sexually active, practice safe sex and protect yourself and your partner against unintended pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS, and misunderstanding about the meaning of the relationship.  Sexually-transmitted viruses and bacteria do not respect national borders. Take a supply of condoms with you since conditions of availability and purchase may be limited, and conditions of manufacture and storage may be questionable.  Emergency contraception (EC) is birth control that prevents pregnancy after sex, which is why it is sometimes called "the morning after pill" and can be very effective if you think your birth control failed, you didn't use contraception, or you were forced to have sex. EC can be obtained prior to departure from Olin Health Center and Planned Parenthood.

Be responsible if using alcohol or other drugs because they can affect your behavior and ability to make decisions.  Don’t leave the country with anything you didn’t bring: this means a pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, or AIDS.